Here comes another religious holiday (not my religion), and all the little kiddies will be hunting eggs at my boss’s ranch. If I refuse to take my child to the big shindig, I’m a spoilsport. If I take her, I’m a hypocrite. Please help me, Jean. If you can come up with some compromise, I’ll be eternally grateful.
Based on the information you gave me, I don’t see any need for a compromise. The party conflicts with your religious traditions, and that’s that! You can explain that to your daughter in words she can understand. Remind her of all the fun activities that coincide with her own traditions as a way to soften her charge that you’re a spoilsport.
I don’t see any reason that you should be embarrassed about not taking your child to the party. Just send a nice handwritten note to your boss. Something like this would work well:
Thank you for your kind invitation to the Easter egg hunt at your ranch. Because the party conflicts with our family’s religious beliefs, we must decline. We appreciate your generosity and thoughtfulness.